How do we know that we are choosing the right goals? How do we know it’s what we really should be working on?
In this post, you’ll discover four strategies you can use to ensure your goals resonate with who you are and what matters to you. These tips will help you set meaningful objectives that not only drive you forward but also bring genuine fulfillment along the way.
Let’s dive in.
Prefer video? Watch this video of John Kehoe sharing his insight for choosing the right goals in life.
1. Understand Societal Influences
Start by examining societal and cultural “memes”—the ideas that define what a successful life looks like. These include being wealthy, famous, attractive, young, and so on.
These influences will naturally pull your attention because they’re everywhere. They’re on your social media feed, TV, magazines, and in conversations around you.
The key question is: Are these goals truly your calling?
Some might align with your aspirations, and there’s nothing wrong with valuing financial independence or success. Those can be worthwhile goals.
But beyond those influences, ask yourself: What is uniquely calling me? What does my life want to become?
2. Discover Your True Purpose
To uncover your purpose, start by asking: What would I love to do? What am I truly good at?
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Remember this: the universe wants you to succeed. And as such, it imprints what you’re meant to do. Why would it guide you toward something you dislike or something overly difficult?
Success is a part of who you are—wired into every cell and embedded in your consciousness.
3. Reevaluate Your Goals Regularly
What I suggest to my students always is to re-evaluate the goals that they have at different times of their life.
Goals that you have at 20 are no longer appropriate at 40, and the goals at 40 are no longer appropriate at 60. But that’s the easy part.
Sometimes, even last month’s goals are no longer appropriate. New experiences, insights, or opportunities can shift your perspective and priorities.
So what’s crucial is to remain flexible and open to change. Regularly reviewing your goals ensures they align with your current values, circumstances, and aspirations, helping you lead a more fulfilling and purposeful life.
4. Trust Your Intuition
Trusting yourself reveals the truth. Sometimes, weeks or months into a decision, you’ll sense something isn’t right. That’s your subconscious mind speaking.
One powerful belief to imprint into your subconscious is: “I always make the right decisions.” With that new belief in place, when a decision isn’t right, you’ll feel it quickly—within a week or two.
Always come back to: Does this feel right?
As you pursue a goal, check in regularly. Do you feel aligned and on track? Or do you feel unsettled, even after achieving milestones?
Trust what feels right.
Decisions are made with both logic and feelings. Logic comes from your conscious mind, while feelings stem from your subconscious, ie. your intuition. When logic and intuition agree, you’re on the right path. But when they conflict, intuition is usually the more reliable guide. Go with it.
You’re Not Always Going to Choose the Right Goals
You’ll never get it 100% right, and that’s okay.
Instead of feeling disappointed when you realize you’ve been chasing the wrong goals, think of it like sailing.
Unlike a motorboat, a sailboat never goes in a straight line. You adjust your sails based on the wind’s direction. You tack back and forth to reach your destination.
Life works the same way. Destiny isn’t linear. It twists, turns, and sometimes goes backward. You’ll make mistakes and wrong decisions, but there’s nothing wrong with that. That’s just part of how life unfolds.
Conclusion
All of us are different; every single one of us is unique, and every single one of us has a destiny. Every one of us has a purpose and meaning to our life. So ultimately, you have to trust what feels right to you.
Have fun in your life. Be successful in your life. Make decisions that feel right. And when they no longer feel right, drop them and move on to something else.
When you follow this pattern, you will be led very well. Your destiny will find you, and you will enjoy a fun, interesting, and successful life.
